In 1975 I was a 22-year-old undergraduate with an undeclared major and no particular ambition or goal in mind.  I liked to write, so I took a course in technical writing, which led to my first (of several) closeted crossdressing fails. In my mid to late teens, I had two hobbies – crossdressing and tropical fish. In my post-pubescent teens I discovered lingerie and makeup, and through connection or coincidence, became fascinated with three exotic species of tropical fish – […]

As much as my father loved me, I was always the apple of my mother’s eye. She called me her miracle baby because she didn’t think she could have me—my sister is 11 years older than me and my brother 10. Then, at the tender age of 44, my mother decided she wanted a third child. My father told me she never wanted anything like she wanted to have me, but it looked like it just wasn’t going to happen. […]

As we say goodbye to 2024, let us look ahead to 2025 as a year of finding. What we find may be all we need or what we dream of as possibilities. Our journey is our own, yet it comes with similarities to the many who call this site home. This is where we come to find answers, to be inspired by others, and to be an inspiration. What we have to share helps so many others. We don’t necessarily […]

No, not in the political sense, and not in which way to turn, although that would make for some interesting discussions… Ever met that person who only gives directions based on compass points? “Ya head North for 2 miles, take the west road, and when it flips back east, take the southern fork.” Give me left and right with descriptive points. It’s much worse when you are in the city and can’t see the sun to figure out which direction […]

Enhance Feminine Features and Conceal Beard Shadow Makeup is a powerful tool for enhancing femininity, and it can be especially helpful for those looking to smooth out facial hair shadow. Whether you’re preparing for a special occasion or a day out, here are our tips in five easy steps to enhance your appearance while keeping it simple, subtle, and feminine! Step 1: Prep Your Skin Start with clean, moisturized skin to ensure smooth makeup application. Exfoliate to remove any dry […]

I recently had a good friend come to me because her partner had come out as Gender Fluid. The following is what I wrote for her as support advise and how she could approach the subject. I wrote it as a letter to her partner. Congratulations, you are out to the people you feel safe with; now what? Well, the short answer is nothing; you are now in the feeling-out stage, which will take time. During this time, you are […]

I won’t spend money on a new set of golf clubs, and I’ll go two years in between buying a new bowling ball (These are my long-term sports hobbies). I’ll search countless sites for deals on fishing and camping equipment. I’m squeaky tight when it comes to spending money on home necessities and going out to eat. And… yet… show me the pretty pair of shoes, tantalizing dress, sizzling accessories, and the money easily disappears without a second thought. A […]

I lived in Corning, NY for 23 years. I used to brag that my kitchen was 17 miles from Watkins Glen International! In the Village of Watkins Glen is the International Motor Racing Research Center (IMRRC). They have all sorts of books, memorabilia, magazines, event programs, etc. that people can come to see or review for research. They also have enough open space where they can display a historically significant race car in the building. Often when the owner comes […]

Year Four begins for me post-voice feminisation surgery (cricothyroid approximation.) I thought I would share my experiences. My surgery: 22 July 2023 Before I totally dive into my conclusion, it’s only fair I should explain how I got to where I am today. I began with a very low voice around 110hz…Darth Vader territory. Yeah, testosterone took to my throat big time, eh. How much that influenced my outcome is a big question… A bit of background info on voice […]

I have been struggling with this feeling inside me for 45 years. As for my back story, I retired from the military in 2009 and I’m still going strong. The feelings over the last ten years were more overwhelming when it had gotten to the point that I figured I needed to reach out to the VA transgender coordinator. I was unsure as to how they would judge me at first. Would I be accepted as normal? I called and […]